Discovering Your Values: A Guide to Living an Aligned Life.
Personal Identity
Discover Your Personal Values Worksheet
A popular quote says, "What a person holds dear speaks volumes about who they truly are." Growing up in Nigeria, where life is deeply community-based, this statement holds weight. However, it also highlights a challenge many of us face. In a culture that places immense value on family expectations, societal norms, and the opinions of others, it’s easy to lose sight of who you truly are.
I’ve experienced this firsthand and have come to understand the profound impact of living a life rooted in values. But what exactly are values, and why should you care about them? Let’s unpack this together.
What Are Values?
Values are the principles or beliefs that guide your life, shaping how you think, act, and interact with the world. They are the foundation of your character—the unseen force behind the decisions you make every day. Without intentionally defining your values, they are often shaped by external influences such as close relationships, work, society, or culture. This can leave you feeling pulled in different directions, living a life defined by others rather than by yourself.
The moment you take the step to define your values is the moment you take ownership of who you are in this world. When you align with your true values, you unlock the version of yourself capable of achieving your authentic life goals—not vanity-driven ones, but goals that deeply resonate with your purpose.
For example, someone who values family might prioritize spending time with loved ones, while someone who values excellence may dedicate themselves to mastering their craft or career.
No two people have the exact same values because your values reflect your unique journey and individuality. Defining them isn’t just about knowing what matters; it’s about living a life that feels true to who you are.
The Problems You Solve by Discovering Your Values
Living without knowing your values is like driving without a destination—you’re constantly moving but unsure where you’re headed. Discovering your values solves several common struggles:
Decision Paralysis:
Struggling to choose between options? Your values can provide the answer. For example, if you value integrity, you’ll find it easier to decline unethical opportunities, no matter how tempting they may seem.Feeling Lost:
Misalignment with your values can make even the most successful person feel empty. Knowing your values ensures you pursue what truly matters.Toxic Relationships:
When you don’t know your values, it’s easy to find yourself in relationships or situations that clash with your principles. Identifying your values helps you set boundaries and connect with like-minded people.People-Pleasing:
Understanding your values means living in alignment with your true self. You won’t need to pretend to be someone you’re not just to please others. You start to know where you end and where the other person begins
Your Values can evolve
Life experiences, personal growth, and changing priorities can shift what you hold dear.
For instance, when I was younger, freedom was a dominant value for me—I wanted to explore the world and seize every opportunity. As I matured, family became a core value, and I now prioritize nurturing meaningful relationships.
While your core values—those tied closely to your identity—might remain steady, others might shift based on your stage in life or circumstances.
Finally…
Discovering your values is not a one-time task; it’s a journey of self-discovery and growth. Take time to reflect on what matters most to you. Start small—think about the principles that guide your daily actions. As you align your life with your values, you’ll find not only clarity but also a deeper sense of fulfillment.
"When the roots are deep, there is no reason to fear the wind." Let your values be those roots. They will hold you steady, no matter where life takes you.
Complete this worksheet to discover your personal values.